NLP Presupposition |The meaning of your communication is the response that you get
The field of NLP assembled many models and techniques that can be applied to various situations – one of the most prominent NLP interventions being communication.
NLP is concerned predominantly with discovering what is true and useful as well as what works for you in any given situation.
NLP teaches that communication is extremely precise and key communication components are often very subtle.
NLP and communication
Are you someone who believes that what you say means exactly what you think it means…….?
So……..who fault is it if your words are misunderstood?
What you say actually means what other people think it means. I’m going to write that again - What you say actually means what other people think it means. The NLP (neuro linguistic programming) presupposition claims that the meaning of your communication is the response that you get.
Practitioners of NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) have a rule that states that the response you elicit from a person depends 100% on how you choose to communicate your ideas to them. If you communicate in a way that gets you the response you desired, you were successful.
If, for example you use a word that may be ambiguous, make sure you clarify how you mean the word to be interpreted, otherwise the other person will interpret the word in terms of how they perceive the world (NLP Presupposition – the map is not the territory) .
If your communication was not successful, you need to learn what was missing in your communication and how to incorporate that the next time you convey your message. What matters is what actually results from your words, tone and actions. Underlying this NLP Presupposition is that people respond to what they think you mean.
So, just who is responsible for communicating.........?
What is key to this NLP presupposition is that it places the onus of getting a response on YOU, not on the other person.
You may think that communication is a one way process. NLP states that is very much a 2 way process – what you say AND how it is interpreted by the other person.
They may be worlds apart! This is the reason why one of the first things they teach you in NLP is that "the meaning of your communication is the response that you get".
In a (NLP) Nutshell....
How people respond to you determines the meaning of what you've said or done irrespective of your intent. The solution …….. when you aren't getting the response you want, it is your responsibility you change how you're communicating.